Getting to Know Your Characters

This week I want to talk about one of the most basic and most important parts of writing: getting to know your characters. I know this sort of thing has been covered extensively by many other writers, but I want to add my two cents to the discussion.

See, for me, this hasn’t ever been particularly easy, though I feel like it is one of the easier parts of writing for a lot of people. Not that anything in writing is easy, but I always see writers who are completely enamored with these new characters they’ve created, gushing over them and going on and on about how much they love all the different facets of their personalities. Meanwhile, I’m standing here in the corner with a cardboard cutout of something that vaguely resembles a real person, wondering how on Earth I’m going to turn them into someone believable. Don’t get me wrong – I love my characters, too…that is, once I actually figure out who they are. And that can take a really long time. Fortunately, I’ve learned how to work around this over the years. If you’re one of those people for whom character creation doesn’t come naturally, fear not! You’re not alone, and hopefully something here will help you (even if it’s only in providing encouragement and moral support).

Character Sheets

We’ve all seen them. We’ve probably all filled out a dozen…a hundred…a thousand. Google “character creation sheet” and you’ll get all kinds of variations, but they follow the same format: a list of traits to fill in and questions to answer about your character. These things are great and they can be tremendously helpful, especially in the early stages when you’re just starting to get to know your characters. I’m not going to tell you to stop filling them out entirely. What I am going to tell you is to be aware that character sheets have limitations, and there comes a point where they simply aren’t useful anymore. At some point, you just have to put on your big-person pants and start writing (which I will talk more about in a minute).

If you’re going to use a character sheet, try to pick one that has quality questions that will really tell you something about the character. I love the ones that include questions about the character’s relationship with other important characters in the story. You can also make up your own questions, perhaps ones that ask about your character’s place in the world or how they feel about certain events in the story or within the setting. Don’t spend time agonizing over questions like, “What’s this character’s favorite color?” or “What is your character’s earliest memory?” Nobody cares, and 99 times out of 100, it’s not important. I mean, if we pretend that I’m a character in a story, how much does the fact that my least favorite color is purple affect who I am as a person? Not enough to matter, and not enough to really impact the conflicts I’ve encountered in my life (though there is something to be said about the aggravation that comes when I go to the store to buy a new notebook and they only have purple ones, but that’s probably not going to be a major plot point).

I can already see a few people shaking their heads in quiet disagreement, and that’s okay. I know plenty of people who argue that it’s super important to know every single detail you can about your character. But I think the favorite color, favorite food, etc. thing is taking it to the extreme just a little. There are far better things you can be spending your time on. So go ahead and use character sheets, if you like. Just make sure you aren’t using them as a crutch.

The Value of Roleplay and Other Writing Exercises

One of the best things you can do to get to know your character is just to write them. This seems obvious, but sometimes it’s easy to get so caught up in the details of character creation that we forget this part. You can write the story your character belongs in, of course, but maybe you’re not ready for that yet. So start with something else. Try coming up with a scenario and then stick your character in the middle of it. Write about what they’d think, how they’d act, or what they’d say. Turn it into a short story, if you like. The setting or situation doesn’t even have to be related to the actual story the character belongs in. You could stick your medieval fantasy novel’s antagonist in a modern doctor’s office. How would they react to long wait-times, or to the little kid in the corner who just will not stop screaming? What would they say to the apathetic doctor who tells them they simply need to take it easy and pop a few Tylenol? This sort of thing can tell you a lot about a character. And the best part is that it does so in a specific, detailed way that you can actually see – something you might not get from a basic character sheet.

Similarly, roleplaying can be a surprisingly helpful way to learn about your characters. It’s also a ton of fun (though it can be distracting from actually writing your story if you’re not careful). Several years ago, I was part of a small online writer’s group which eventually resulted in a whole bunch of roleplaying with characters from all of our different stories. At first, we just stuck our characters in a room together and let them interact. Eventually, we devised elaborate Hunger Games/Battle Royale scenarios and let them fight to the death. Madness ensued, of course, but it was delightfully entertaining, and I can honestly say that I learned a lot about some of my characters through it all. Were they they type of person who would help someone weaker than them, or were they just out to kill everyone else? How resourceful were they? Did they panic, or did were they able to keep their head in crisis situations? What would they do if one of their friends was in trouble? These can all be valuable things to know when you start writing your story. Best of all, it’s experimental, so if your character says something that doesn’t seem to fit, or if you have them act in a way that seems uncharacteristic, you’re able to see that. Understanding who your character isn’t can sometimes be just as important as understanding who they are.

Put the Character in the Story, Dang it!

Remember what I said earlier about putting on your big-person pants? Well, this is where that comes in. At some point, you have to stop overthinking things and throw your characters in the story. This has been one of the hardest lessons for me to learn, but also one of the most rewarding. “But I barely know my characters!” you say. Guess what? That’s kind of the whole point. You don’t know them, and you’re not going to – not really – until you start writing them. Characters need a story.

Several years ago, I started writing a YA dystopian novel about an assassin character named Zira. I didn’t have much on her, just a few vague personality traits, some backstory, and a sketch of how I imagined she’d look. What I did have was a pretty detailed plot outline. I started writing, and all through that first draft, I was painfully aware of how flat Zira and the other characters were. I kept plugging away, determined to finish a draft before I let my inner editor take over. By the end of that draft, something had changed. I knew her. I knew how she talked, how she moved, what she cared about, how her mind worked. I knew her biggest fears and her greatest weaknesses, and I saw things about her that she didn’t even see in herself. I was able to go back to the beginning and rewrite her character in a way that felt much more believable and real. After the second draft, I knew her even better. The same was true for the other characters.

My point is that sometimes the best way to get to know your character is to stick them in the story and let them work through the conflicts you’ve created for them. Just write. It doesn’t have to be perfect the first time. That’s one of the best things about a first draft; it’s not about trying to write something flawless. It’s about discovery. Earlier this year, I decided to set Zira’s story aside for a while and write something else. I was terrified. I’d spent the past four years with Zira and everyone else in her story, and I wasn’t sure that I could write about different characters – people I barely knew. Then I remembered that that was how I’d felt about her at first, too. I stopped worrying about it and I started writing. It has been so liberating to just allow myself to write, to discover, to learn about my characters as I go on their journey with them. I’m halfway through the first draft, and I’m already well-aware of some of the issues with the characters. There are places where they say and do things that are completely ridiculous. There are things that have changed over the course of the story that completely derail things that made sense for the character early on. The main protagonist is so dull and lifeless in the first 1/3 of the story that I know I’m going to have to do a complete overhaul where he’s concerned. But I’m learning. I’m figuring out who these people are, and I’m doing it much faster than I ever could just by filling out a questionnaire about each of them. And I am loving every moment of it.

So go ahead. Fill out those character sheets and play around with some writing exercises to help you figure out who these people in your story are. And then, just tell the story. It’s okay to start writing before you really know them. You don’t have to get them 100% right the first time, after all.


3 thoughts on “Getting to Know Your Characters

  1. Love this! I’d actually been thinking of looking for a new character sheet template throughout the past couple of days as I start to play with a couple of new characters. You’re definitely right – they’re really useful from a superficial standpoint (nailing down the basics and whatnot) but they really can become a crutch if you just rely on them for your entire character development process.

    I totally did the short story thing back when I first created Skeet, Zinni, and Aroska. I really didn’t know a thing about them at that point, but it was really helpful to “see” them for the first time, even if they didn’t really do a lot in the story. It’s such a good idea, and it doesn’t take that much work.

    lollllllll I need to put on my big-person pants XD I get so caught up in planning everything to a T and become obsessed over wanting things perfect that I’m always afraid to just dive in, especially when it comes to characters. Good grief – I think back to the original drafts of Dakiti and how lame Aroska was before I’d really nailed down his relationship with the other characters, and I’m so glad I was able to go back through and fix him, because I feel like he has turned into a really great character and lots of my readers seem to love him. The basics were there all along, but they were just that: BASICS. Just like a skin he was wearing. Nothing went any deeper.

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    • Yeah, writing scenes or stories with the characters is immensely helpful, even if it’s not related to the actual story at all.
      Haha! Yeah, I totally understand wanting to plan everything out and make them perfect before you start. I always try to do that too but end up realizing that it never works for me and I’d be better off just writing and then spending that time revising. Short stories really helped me figure that out. Because they’re so short, I felt like I needed to get them done quickly, and that meant not spending massive amounts of time nailing down every detail about the character(s) before I started writing. I came to realize that writing the story actually told me more about the character than all the planning. Not that planning is a bad thing, but when you’re not working with a longer project, it feels more productive (to me, at least) to just start writing.

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  2. Reblogged this on EJ Fisch and commented:
    Great post. Character sheets are still great for sketching out the basics of your characters, but inserting them into short stories or scenes is a really useful way to get to know them. I did this with several of my characters back in the day, and it really helped to “see” them for the first time.


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